Who is the most important person in your healing plan?
If you said your family or friend, the answer is no. If you said your therapist or pastor, the answer is no.
If you said yourself, then bingo.
YOU are the most important person in your healing process. Simply because you are the one who has to do the work. You make the decision to start. You make the decision to stop. And you decide the degree to which you will do the work.
While I won’t diminish the importance of family and friends, professional or spiritual help, I will say the support you get is still limited by the level to which you accept the support.
In a sense, you are the superstar of your healing. No one else can do it for you.
Given what you’ve been through as a survivor, you may feel inadequate or incapable. These are two “i” words I prefer not to use concerning you. So let’s replace them with two new “I” statements:
I know the work will be hard, but I intend to stick with it.
I’ve said it before; your healing plan begins with a decision to tell your story. However, there are a few points to keep in mind:
- You are ready when you’re ready and not before. Healing can’t occur if you start your healing plan because someone forces you into it.
- You can do it privately or publicly, but make sure you do it with someone you trust (I first told my mother, read my full story)
- Embarking on the journey to tell your story will bring up some pain; work with a trained professional or spiritual leader to walk through this process. DO NOT DO IT ALONE.
- Your care is important. If you need to slow down so you can digest what’s happening, do so.
- Do your best not to be one of those hurt people who hurt people.
“…you are the superstar of your healing. No one else can do it for you.”
I hope these points are as helpful to you as they have been to me as I travel along my path to healing.