I believe the answer depends on how I define “broken”, which may be a little hard in our current society. Today, sometimes we accept broken as normal.
But I’ll give it a try. Personally, I believe self-reflection reveals whether we are broken. So, I’ll begin by asking myself three soul-searching questions:
1) Do I like myself?
Can I look at myself in a mirror and say “Yea, I like what I see”? Or, do I find myself looking away? If I dare stare, do I evaluate every piece of me from the shape of my eyebrows to the curve of my hips
2) Do I have a pattern of hurting myself?
Do I look for ways to criticize myself from my appearance to my skills and abilities? Do I label myself with words like ugly, dumb or even, loser? Do I physically try to harm myself?
3) Do I have a pattern of hurting others?
Do I use my mouth or my hands or my behaviour to harm others? Do I leave a path of hurt people wherever I go? Do I feel better after I do this?
When I found myself answering “yes” to even just one of these questions, I knew I was broken. I didn’t know to what degree, but I knew I needed to be mended. I needed healing.
Get Help If You’re Broken
Take this self-test. If you find yourself answering “yes” to one of these questions, then you’ve made the first step towards healing – you’ve acknowledged you are broken.
Please note, I am not a doctor but am solely a survivor of CSA. I have found that my responses to these questions showed that I needed to seek the help of a professional, in my case, it was my spiritual advisor at my church. Talking to someone is always a positive step to take on the road to healing. I want you to know that if you are broken, you CAN be healed. Check out a few of these helpful hotlines for survivors: