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Why Did God Allow This to Happen to Me?

Why Did God Allow This to Happen to Me?

Why did God allow this to happen to me?

The question important to most adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse, Christian or otherwise. It may be asked following the abuse or it may take years to surface.

The question makes us uncomfortable because it feels like we are challenging God. Emotional feelings toward God including anger, disappointment, or perhaps doubt. The hardest part isn’t the question itself, but the answer because it will never be specific enough.

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The Self Blame Game

The Self Blame Game

Survivors of childhood trauma, particularly sexual abuse, are made to feel like they did something wrong. Unfortunately, we embrace this thought with a vise-like grip, refusing to let go.

Personally, I went through my own mind battles of what I could have done to prevent my abuse.

Should I have stayed home? Should I have said no? Should I have told my grandma who was just one wall away from where my abuse was occurring?

I was a child. There was nothing I could have done, and, still, as an adult I look back on the time as if I had options I had not exercised.

I, like many other abuse survivors, played the game of self blame.

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The Holy Spirit's Role in Trauma and Healing

The Holy Spirit's Role in Trauma and Healing

I'm suffering from pandemic brain.

Are you wondering what that is? Pandemic brain describes the change in our cognitive function due to the prolonged stress and anxiety of the pandemic. When the brain spends an extended amount of time under stress, it adjusts to protect itself.

This got me thinking about the trauma of childhood sexual abuse survivors, like myself, and the different levels of healing. Survivors are managing the impact of their childhood experience in addition to the fear, anxiety, isolation, depression, and brain fog of a pandemic. It seems like too much. I had to stop and remind myself of the tools I had as a Christian.

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Good News in the Fight Against Child Sexual Abuse
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Good News in the Fight Against Child Sexual Abuse

Children are society's most valuable resources and protecting them should be high on the list of our top priorities. This means bringing awareness to the issues and showing support where and how we are able to. I know child sexual abuse is a heavy topic and every time you learn more about it, you may feel better informed, but somewhat helpless. In today's post, I thought you might want to hear some good news and see how progress is being made around the world. Be encouraged. If all you can do now is pray, then those prayers help make progress.

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Kickstart Your Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse
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Kickstart Your Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse

“Broken” is one way to summarizes all of the impacts that can result from childhood sexual abuse. Broken isn’t a pretty word, nor does it paint a pretty picture, but it’s a true, simple descriptor for what happens when a child is abused.

The truth is my childhood sexual abuse broke me. The breaking was easy, but the healing is hard. Is it time to take the hard step and kickstart your healing? Are you ready to learn more so you can support either yourself or someone you know as they begin their healing from childhood sexual abuse?

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Shake the Stigma; Stop the Shame
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Shake the Stigma; Stop the Shame

Stigma and shame are two reasons we don’t often hear a lot of talk about child sexual abuse. But it’s time to shake the stigma and stop the shame.

How do we get started? It starts small. Learn how you can be part of the solution.

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